Hi friends. I am asking for help for me and my parents. Please allow me to explain.
The backstory
As many of you know, my sister is an alcoholic, and this has been something that is/has been directly impacting my mom, my dad, and me for nearly two years now. I have struggled immensely and I am forever grateful for my tribe who are my sounding board and my support system through all of this.
My sister is a train wreck. There’s no other way to put it. In 2024, she lost everything and has been living with my mom on-and-off ever since. She has been in rehab — 5 times/facilities — in one year. In 2025, she miraculously got hired… but also fired from 2 companies. And now she just got fired again from a third one. Now, she will have to live in a shelter because my family is completely and utterly exhausted.
The current situation
I wish that were the worst of what we are currently experiencing. Within the past 4 months, Megan met, began a relationship with, and moved in with another addict. To no one’s surprise, it was volatile and extremely unhealthy. My family knew from the start this would end very badly. But Megan must make her own choices. And she chose.
After she and this person had an altercation over the weekend, Megan was arrested. The relationship is over, but Megan had already fully moved in. After Megan went to retrieve some essential items, she discovered that this person has cut her clothes.
I believe this person has not only damaged my sister’s clothes, but likely also her other belongings. This includes family heirlooms and things that hold a tremendous amount of nostalgia. Pieces that we got from my grandparents’ home when they died. Things that belonged to my mom when she was a child, teen, and young adult.
I have never been materialistic. But when it comes to things that hold sentimental value, I cannot express how devastating this is to me personally. This person is unhinged, and the longer those items remain in that house, the more likely they are to be destroyed.
My family and I are working with the Sheriff's Office to retrieve everything. And I do hope my sister feels the extreme loss of losing everything — again — as she makes her way to the bottom. If she ever gets there at all.
The ask
At this rate, I must assume this person has damaged or destroyed all of my sister’s clothes. She is going to need some essentials to at least exist, and I do not want the burden of getting those to fall to my mother. That’s why I am reaching out.
I am angry at her. I am sad. I feel helpless. I do not want to enable my sister, but I also want to prevent too much from falling on my mom and dad.
My sister is a lot smaller than I am, and I am gathering items to the extent that I can, but I am requesting a few donations as she navigates through this (and this will include meetings with lawyers and court appearances). I am asking for a limited amount of items to help us along the way.
Pants: size 0 to 2
Tops/skirts: S/XS
Shoes: 7 to 7.5
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For lcourt/job interviews:
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1 to 2 nice dress shirts
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1 blazer/sweater/ cardigan
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1 to 2 skirts
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1 to 2 pair of dress pants
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1 to 2 size 6 or 7 shoes
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For otherwise:
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1 to 2 pair of jeans
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1 to 2 pair of shoes
I may need to gather a few options for her to try on. For anything that does not work, I will personally donate to the Hospitality House or a charity of your choosing. As these items are fulfilled, I will remove them from this list to prevent an excess of donations. My goal is not to replace everything for my sister, but to meet the current need and minimize the impact to my parents.
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Please fill out the form below and I will be in touch to coordinate donation drop off and timing.
There’s no way in the world I can ever find the words to thank you for this kindness.